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参加<大成教练一天班>心得(11/15/09) (已有:1326人访问)


                                                         参加<大成教练一天班>心得
                                                                  大成教练第一部分
        参加大成教练有一段时间了,一直有想写点东西,今天又重新复习了一下那天的现场笔记,突然很有感觉,就是想把它记录下来,确实是大师级的课程,感受就是不同!
        以下很多为个人心得和思想,代表个人,供参考,每个角度都会有不同的收获。
首先Mical Hall博士(以下简称M博士)介绍了何为教练技术的定义,先给出其他几个领域的定义,比如顾问是给建议,而好的教练是不给建议的。而后辅导,辅导时指某个人在这个领域已经成功了,要他辅导你。而教练并不一定要在这个领域非常成功。咨询,能给我们带来治疗的效果。而教练不是治疗。培训师帮助他,让对方懂得很多技巧,一个教学的专家。而教练也不是教你技巧。教练技术包含以上四块的一些部分,同时大部分就是教练技术的本身。
以上四块皆为“内容的专业”,而教练技术强调“客户本身就是精华”,教练技术在不管内容、技巧的基础上“不断优化”客户的内在!
大成教练技术是优化和整合当事人的资源,助其迈向理想的结果,充分释放其潜力并实现其最高最佳状态!
教练技术是释放一个人内在潜能的对话!
教练技术是在更高或大成的水平上的优化对话!
(个人感觉这里有一些灵性的内容,比如对当事人的信心与真诚,以及空白的好奇,好奇当事人的潜能,这个身心一致的状态就有一些难以用言辞形容的部分,不过关键是如果让当事人也相信并感觉到自己的潜能,并能到达一个“丰资状态”,也即丰富资源的状态。)
关于理论部分我就不过多阐述,有些地方我也听不大懂,这个课程是要一定的基础的,有了基础之后自然会有极大的收获。
课程中有几个示范,通俗的面对面的在讲台上做的案例,我拿这些出来分享一下,或许更直接有效地达到分享的效果!
M博士叫了一个非常想要达到一个改变的女士(N)上来做示范,该女士觉得自己太过于自我中心,打不开自己,尤其在于老公相处的时候,她想改变这一点。以下是对话的进行:
M:你怎么知道你有自我中心这样的倾向?(你怎么知道你是这个样子的?)
N:我感觉我就是这样子啊!
M:你说的是过去,那你现在呢?
N:现在我非常想改变!
M:区别在哪里?
N:如此之后,家庭会非常美满!
M:你是怎么知道别人知道你是如何打开的?(放开心胸)
你是怎么知道自己怎么打开的?
你怎么知道你是打开的?
M:或者说,你如果不做一个自我中心的人,你的言语、行为、情绪会有什么不同呢?(下切问句)
N:那我会。。。(如何如何)
M:so come on!
M:你想要的是更加打开自己!
N:恩
M:你说你怎么知道已经打开自己?是你和别人沟通更加顺畅吗?
N:恩,比如和我老公。
M:你的老公会看到你有什么不同?(下切问句)
N:老公会更加愉快,当我设身处地为他着想时。
M:你会具体做什么?
N:多一点笑容,更加温柔。
M:你会多一点笑容,更加温柔。你什么时候用这种方式与他沟通?
N:如果他能对我态度好一点!
M:我们当然能改变他,我们先改变自己,好吗?
N:。。。
M:如果他是你的客户,你会如何?(身份的改变,这里隐藏一个假设,假设她之前有过笑容、温柔的状态,用逻辑层次的身份能最快的调动这个状态)
N:我会更有耐心!
M:当你更有耐心时,对你意味着什么?(上推问句)
N:我希望他会改变的更多一点!
M:那意味你要把你的思想改到哪里去?
M:当你想象成客户时,意味着对你?
N:很重要,生意状况,基本礼貌,真诚的沟通。
M:很重要,基本礼貌,真诚的沟通。当你带着这些感觉去看你的老公。
如果你要这样做的话,你要有什么想法、信念?(直接上推到她的框架,信念等,最有效快速的改变)
N:。。。
M:你相信你有这个能力吗?(当对方沉默时,马上调起她的状态,状态好了,自然能去找到更多资源,而这个相信自己是直接从能力层面入手)
N:。。。
M:你觉得这个对你重要吗?(这是隐含在是否相信后面更高层次的一个问句)
会给你带来什么好处?如果与丈夫沟通很好的话。
N:恩,很重要!很多好处。。。
M:你准备好去做了吗?、
旧的框架会依旧是旧的结果,新的框架会带来新的结果,你的选择是什么?
N:我知道这样,可以还有一点,我还是很容易掉入原来旧有的模式。
M:你相信你很容易掉入旧的模式!(直接带当事人看到她背后的信念)
你想要原来的框架吗?
N:不想要!
M:也许你想要哦。。。(这里我感觉隐含了一些潜意识的信息,不过M博士没有带下去,因为对方要的是改变,教练的身份是如何让对方简单、快速、有效、持久的改变!)
如果不想要,你可以用什么新的信念来代替旧的信念?
N:不懂。
M:如果你放下旧的,你会去相信什么新的方向呢?
N:我会相信我有能力去改变!(这里很神奇,M博士之前问到过她是否相信自己有能力去改变?她当时沉默,现在她自己找到了改变的一个关键信念所在,因为她知道这对她很重要!)
M:你愿意去相信吗?
N:是的!
M:真的是你的意愿吗?
N:恩!
M:当你相信你有这个能力去改变时,当你更有能力去更有耐心,当你更加温柔时,当你和丈夫沟通非常顺利,家庭幸福时,你感觉如何?
N:非常棒!
M:这个感觉时,你的呼吸,脸部是什么样子?
N:。。。如何如何
M:你下次带着这种状态见你老公是什么时候?(下切问句,行动及其承诺)
N:今晚!
M:你今晚相信你有这个能力去改变,会更有耐心,会更加温柔,会更加打开,会更加为对方着想。你今晚会像对待你的重要的人,比如你的客户。你将会有什么样的呼吸,你的表情,言语。。。
N:当场好朋友不是客户!
M:恩,好朋友!你看,你找到了!我们简单练习一下,推开门!“好朋友”。(这里下了一个心锚,“好朋友”带出她的感觉)
N:恩!谢谢您!!好朋友!
                                                                  (示范完,第一部分完)

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